to be honest, i have hear many genuine stories of confinement ladies, MILs etc and new-mums having loads of argument over confinement and bb-care.
analysing the situations, i tink nobody is really in the wrong shoes. everyone is kan cheong over new-borns and have their own best way and approach to provide for the bb. not seeing eye-to-eye brings about problems.
i have not experience this as yet, and so far my relationship with both mums are still ok. honestly i hope not to jeopardise this relationship. have been talking with jeff for some time, and finally on the weekend that has just passed, we have an open discussion with mum and MIL at in-laws place.
Confinement: Confinement lady cost about $1800-2500. And i heard that babies born in the chinese month Nov till CNY, confinement lady will ask for $500 more as market rate, as year-end is baby-boom period. after i learn about this, i am ?!?!?! puzzled.
-- we will have both mums to do confinement for me.
a)MIL is 48 years old and she is experience with cooking and bb-care. so she will cook and help in taking care of the bb for me, and she stays a few blocks away, so walking back home not a problem.
b)my mum will take care of me and with other light household chores.
i will split $2300 between 2 of them, with MIL getting more. both agreed. foods, diapers etc will be aside.
i have bring out the topic that we will have argements along the way, but please trash it out as long as not happy. well easier said than done. wait till actual situations and we shall see.
BB-care: MIL is our best option and everyone agrees. my mum is physically not able to take care of a new-born but she would like to have more time seeing her grandchild.
after discussion, i understand my mum likes to do her housework in the morning, and my MIL likes to do her housework after dinner in the evening.
so before we go work, bb will be in MIL's care. we will bring the bb home in the evening. since our house is very near, not an issue.
my mum's place is 2 bus-stops away, not very far either. if my mum wans to see her grandchild, she shall call my MIL and go her place from afternoon onwards.
if anytime my MIL needs to run errands or go mahjong in the afternoon, she will meet my mum at my place ard 2pm, and my mum will take care of bb at my place in the afternoon. when we are home, we will send her back.
mainly we will pay my MIL for bb-care. will reimburse my mum in accordance if she takes care of bb more.
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so far this is the arrangement, and we shall change as tings changes.
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